Self Esteem and Self Worth

Beliefs, thoughts and feelings shape a person’s self-esteem and self-worth, directly influencing how they see and experience the world.

Self Esteem

Our self esteem is not set for life, it is adaptable and responds when we reframe our negative beliefs about ourselves.  Our level of self esteem depends on how we feel about ourselves; what we believe about ourselves and the worth we place on ourselves. How we view the world, the decisions we make, how we communicate, our boundaries, hopes, dreams and ability to reach our full potential are all affected by our self esteem.

High Self Esteem

People with high self esteem feel good about themselves most of the time, they know they are genuinely worthwhile, they accept themselves for who they are, respect themselves, allow themselves to make mistakes and are comfortable with taking risks.  They don't depend on other people telling them they are ok.

Low Self Esteem

We all have moments when we doubt ourselves and our abilities and this is part of life and learning. Low self esteem is a more persistent way of seeing ourselves.  People with low self esteem are more likely to take less care of themselves, doubt themselves, be submissive or reactive, be sensitive to criticism, experience depression and distrust, feel shame, not value themselves, crave attention, be jealous of others, assume other think badly of them, fear failure and experience high levels of stress. 

Self Worth

Your self-worth refers more to a deep sense of who you are, to your sense of being in this world.  It is directly related to your identity, your sense of self, your overall feeling of importance and value in this world. It is the ability to embrace all facets of yourself – not just the positive more esteemable parts. Self-worth is an unconditional acceptance of self, free from any qualification.  Self-worth is not rocked by life’s circumstances. A good sense of self-worth is the ability recognise ones weaknesses, limitations and foibles and still know that this awareness does not interfere with your ability to fully accept yourselves and know that you are inherently worthy.

The more individuals recognise their challenges with self esteem and self-worth, the more aware they become of changes that can be made. 

Counselling and psychotherapy provides that safe confidential space to be vulnerable, explore, build internal resilience and develop a healthy relationship with ones own self-worth.