Grief, Loss and Bereavement

Grief and loss often underpin the reasons people seek counselling. The experience of loss can challenge who we think we are and how we view ourselves in the world. There are many types of losses that are grieved for and any loss has the potential to cause grief and impact on a person’s well-being.

Grief is our response to a loss. It is a normal, natural and inevitable response to loss and it can affect every part of our life. It includes our thoughts, behaviours, beliefs, feelings, physical health and our relationships with others.

With the support of family and friends, many people adapt to loss well and may not experience intense and persistent feelings. However, for some, the experience of grief can be overwhelming and persistent. 

Loss includes

  • Death, miscarriage, still birth, divorce, separation, estrangement, immigration
  • Health - physical capacity, cancer, dementia, termination, ongoing health issues
  • Retirement, redundancy, life changes
  • Relationship or friendships
  • Identity - culture, self, youth, age
  • Opportunity - a dream, job, house, travel
  • Loss of a pet 

How we grieve and navigate our way through the pain of loss is intensely personal and individual.  

If you are finding it difficult to manage on a day-to-day basis, it may be helpful to see a counsellor/psychotherapist.  It’s okay to admit you are struggling with your grief.

Grief Points

  1. Common grief responses effect how we feel emotionally , how we think and our physical wellbeing.
  2. Grief is an individual experience
  3. Life grows around grief - we don't "get over loss" we learn to adapt to the world that exists with that loss.
  4. Grief doesn't have a timeline
  5. Self-care - it is important to look after yourself.

Counselling can help you to understand your grief, build on your resilience and develop healthy ways of adapting to your loss.